Back to School Tips for Kids & Parents

 

101 Back-to-School Tips for Kids and Parents

As summer comes to an end and back-to-school season begins, it can be hard to get back into a regular schedule – both for kids and adults.

The trick here is to plan ahead. Read through this list and identify some strategies that you think could help you and your family stay organized and on top of things. Then, test these different approaches as a family so you can figure out which ones work for you, and which ones don’t.

Finally, make sure that you include your entire child care crew in your plans, too. No matter whether you have a babysitter, a nanny, a tutor, or all of the above, they’ll be able to help you keep your kiddo on track for the first day of school. Plus, they’ll be able to take some tasks off of your plate – which means that you can enter the school year with a little more of your sanity intact.

  1. Set your kids’ sleep schedules back to “School Time” two weeks before the first day.
  2. Get your kids involved in programs that they can do after school to keep them active.
  3. Visit cultural attractions like museums to shift their brains into “Scholar” mode.
  4. Hire an after-school sitter to help care for your kids while you’re at work.
  5. Encourage your kids to read at least one book before the school year begins.
  6. Reacquaint your kids with the calendar schedule they’ll use to manage their activities.
  7. Try apps like iHomework or MyHomeWork to help your kids organize assignments.
  8. Let kids choose a planner or scheduling tool that they’re excited to use.
  9. Set up weekly meetings to review your kids’ schedules for the week(s) ahead.
  10. Create a family calendar that tracks everyone’s activities and commitments.
  11. Refresh your rules about screen time for the school What’s allowed and when?
  12. Establish a set “Family Time,” whether it’s during dinner or before bed.
  13. Give kids a specific day to when they can choose all the activities you do together.
  14. Determine how long it takes them to do assignments to help with time management.
  15. Use an egg timer to get your kids used to focusing for specific periods of time.
  16. Teach your kids to prioritize their assignments by making to-do lists with deadlines.
  17. Give your kids a short break after each assignment they finish, such as a short walk.
  18. Set a regular alarm each day that signals the start of homework time.
  19. Discuss what your kids can expect on the first day so they feel more prepared.
  20. Visit the school with your kids so they can get familiar with their new environments.
  21. Arrange playdates with two or three of your kids’ friends to rebuild existing social ties.
  22. Ask teachers for class rosters so you can arrange playdates with new classmates too.
  23. Get the lists of school supplies, books and technology your kids will need.
  24. Inventory last year’s school supplies before going out to buy more.
  25. Include your kids in back-to-school shopping by letting them pick out their items.
  26. Make a plan for organizing those supplies – and keeping them that way.
  27. Create a dedicated space for your kids to store their school supplies and technology.
  28. Establish a specific space like the family office as the official “homework area.”
  29. Remove distractions like TVs and video game consoles from homework areas.
  30. Repurpose and relabel plastic tubs to organize all school supplies.
  31. Help your kids develop a filing system for organizing their documents for each class.
  32. Set – and enforce – regular weekday and weekend bedtimes. 
  33. Set – and enforce – regular weekday and weekend wake-up calls.
  34. Keep track of existing extracurricular activities to prevent over-scheduling.
  35. Have your kids set realistic goals for the new year, such as reading 30 books.
  36. Help your kids prioritize their activities by tying them to their year’s goals.
  37. Create a list of fun after-school activities and games to keep your kids entertained.
  38. Touch base with teachers early on to troubleshoot any issues your kids may be having. Here are 20 questions you can ask.
  39. Create an after-school schedule that allows time for snack, relaxation, play and study.
  40. Establish regular bedtime routines for elementary school kids and pre-schoolers.
  41. Carve out blocks of fun time for your kids, whether it’s through sports or playdates.
  42. Hire a tutor, babysitter or homework helper to help you navigate homework time.
  43. Model good behavior by doing your own work/projects while your kids do homework.
  44. Encourage your kids to lay out their school clothes the night before.
  45. Use this printable checklist to establish a regular morning routine.
  46. Have your kids pack their school bags before they go to sleep that night.
  47. Have your kids also pack their gym bags the night before and leave them by the door.
  48. If your kids bring their own lunch, pack their lunch boxes before going to bed.
  49. Establish rules for where they should put lunchboxes, when they come home.
  50. Revamp your home organization setup to be more kid-friendly. For example, low hooks make it easy for younger children to hang up coats!
  51. Go through your kids’ schoolwork once a month to toss the things you don’t want.
  52. File or scan assignments that you want to keep.
  53. Create an inbox for kids to leave things that need your attention, like permission slips.
  54. Designate a plastic tub as a put-away bin for anything that’s out of its place.
  55. Set a time each week to sync up individual calendars with the family calendar.
  56. Inventory your kids’ wardrobes and toss/donate things they’ve outgrown.
  57. Create a list and budget for back-to-school shopping.
  58. Let your child choose their clothes, shoes and other items they’ll need.
  59. Go through their wardrobes every 2-3 months to get rid of things that no longer 60.Set up a laundry system that makes it easy to sort and wash everyone’s clothes.
  60. Make homework caddies that can be used to carry school supplies through the house.
  61. Buy bulk packaged snacks like bags of grapes that can be easily added to lunches.
  62. Discuss the different pros and cons of bringing versus buying school lunches.
  63. Get copies of school menus in advance to discuss lunch choices.
  64. Get your kids involved in creating and preparing their daily lunch menus.
  65. Buy reusable sports bottles to increase their water consumption during the day.
  66. Keep a small emergency allowance in your kids’ bags, just in case.
  67. Organize lunch ingredients in one part of the fridge so you can make fast lunches.
  68. Purchase lunch boxes or reusable bags to help save the environment.
  69. Make a week’s worth of sandwiches on Sunday, wrap in tinfoil, and unthaw them the night before.
  70. Use sticky notes to flag important items in kids’ that they should pay attention to.
  71. Plan supervised study dates when kids work together on projects or homework.
  72. Have a backup transportation mode planned in case your kids miss the bus.
  73. Set your clocks forward 10 minutes.  This makes it easier to be on time.
  74. Schedule blocks of time to check in with each child to see how things are going.
  75. Schedule at least one 30-minute block in your calendar each day for “you time. “
  76. Create a rewards system for when they meet goals like helping around the house.
  77. Shop for school supplies and clothes early. Avoid the rush.
  78. Use positive phrasing, such as “You can go outside after your homework is done,” rather than “You’re not going outside until this is finished.”
  79. Make sure your kids (and you!) have an effective wake-up alarm that works for them.
  80. Set an alarm or notification 30 minutes before bedtime.
  81. Remove things like mobile devices from kids’ bedrooms to focus them on sleeping.
  82. Use night lights, white sound machines and fans for kids who can’t get to sleep.
  83. Keep a single, easy-access file for vaccination records and other important papers.
  84. Set up the breakfast table before you go to bed.
  85. Map out a bathroom schedule to avoid family fights for bathroom time.
  86. Replace old backpacks with ones that are sturdy, ergonomic and kid-friendly.
  87. Keep a running list of supplies, clothing and food that need to be bought each week.
  88. Use a see-and-store toy rack to make it easier for kids to stay organized.
  89. Set up a hanging organizer with five boxes for clothes for each day of the week.
  90. Dedicate a rack in the garage, basement or entry way for sports equipment.
  91. Create a regular pet care schedule that outlines who does what and when.
  92. Schedule study blocks on the weekends before big tests, mid-terms and finals.
  93. Use under-the-bed storage for off-season clothes and toys that aren’t regularly used.
  94. Give everyone a shower caddy to keep bathroom supplies organized.
  95. Have a playdate caddy ready to go, with an extra set of clothes, games and toys.
  96. Figure out different ways you can be involved in the classroom this school year.
  97. Talk openly with your kids about their feelings about returning to school.
  98. Do something fun to diffuse this stressful time of year for all of you!
  99. Take a breath!

With all this preparation, your kids will be in great shape. If you’re relaxed and calm, they’ll head off to school feeling excited and ready to get to work.

Resources: www.ces-schools.net
Provided by: www.eannc.com

Davis Named President of of the North Carolina Community Action Association Board of Directors

Mountain Projects Executive Director Patsy Powell Davis was named President of the North Carolina Community Action Association Board of Directors on Friday, May 13, at the organization’s annual conference, held this year in Cherokee.

The North Carolina Community Action Association is an anti-poverty member organization that advocates on behalf of the needs of vulnerable families through its statewide network of 34 community action agencies (CAAs) serving all 100 counties. Member organizations work together to break cycles of poverty and to strengthen low-income families and communities.

Mountain Projects and the NCCAA were both formed in 1965, and have a long history of collaboration.

“I am profoundly honored to lead the NCCAA board for the next two years and to be joined by such a stellar group of advocates for North Carolina’s most vulnerable populations,” said Davis. “This board has very clear objectives. Like our predecessors, our goal is to continue to uphold the community action network’s high standards of enriching lives purposefully and intentionally through the collective work that we do.”

Community Action Agencies equip low-income citizens with the tools and potential for becoming self-sufficient. The structure of programming is unique: federal grant dollars are used locally to offer specialized programming in communities. It is a coordinated effort to address the root effects of poverty and, ultimately, to move families and individuals to self-sufficiency.

“NCCAA exists to uplift our state’s most vulnerable families,” said Executive Director Sharon C. Goodson. “We welcome these new board members, whose passions are deeply rooted in our statewide network’s anti-poverty mission of empowering low-income people to help themselves and each other while growing strong communities for all. These dedicated advocates and inspiring leaders will guide this work in both rural and urban communities in all 100 of our state’s counties.”

The following individuals were sworn into leadership at the NCCAA Conference in Cherokee and represent agencies throughout the State of North Carolina.

Mountain Projects receives generous $30,000 investment from Nantahala Health Foundation

Mountain Projects Community Action Agency has received a $30,000 investment grant from Nantahala Health Foundation to increase home safety for underserved populations in Jackson County.

Grant investment funds from the Foundation will be used for Housing Rehabilitation projects in Jackson County. “We have a long waiting list for these services, and it will feel good to give these people some relief,” says Mountain Projects Rehabilitation and Weatherization Program Manager, Vivian Bumgarner.

The Weatherization and Rehabilitation program manages urgent repairs for low income homeowners. Oftentimes, clients need accessibility modifications to their homes and other urgent repairs to prevent imminent displacement. Accessibility projects include ramp building and making bathrooms safe and usable, while other projects might include replacement of doors and windows or other weatherization measures that keep the household warm and reduce costly heating bills.

“These funds are essential in our effort to support the wellbeing of underserved households in Jackson County and will assist with the independence and self-sufficiency of local seniors,” says Mountain Projects Executive Director Patsy Davis. “This project would not have been possible without this support from Nantahala Health Foundation.” 

About Mountain Projects

Mountain Projects is a non-profit Community Action Agency founded in 1965. We offer programs and services that improve life in Haywood and Jackson Counties, and our 145 employees serve more than 15,000 people each year. Our programs and partnerships help provide assistance with health and wellness, housing, education, transportation and much more.

We serve seniors, households with economic need, the disabled and individuals and families experiencing emergencies. If we cannot provide needed services, we connect clients to those who can.

For more information about Mountain Projects and how you can support this community effort, please call Patsy Davis at 828-452-1447 or visit our website at www.MountainProjects.org.

About Nantahala Health Foundation

Working as a catalyst for innovation and collaboration, Nantahala Health Foundation seeks to partner with nonprofit organizations and governmental agencies in Cherokee, Clay, Graham, Jackson, Macon, and Swain counties and the Qualla Boundary to achieve better health and wellness outcomes for all. By working to address the upstream, root causes of health inequities and by removing barriers to positive social determinants of health, NHF’s success is seen best in partnerships with regional change-makers. Since its establishment in 2019, NHF has awarded nearly $3.13 million in support to some 148 programs throughout the region. Visit NHF’s website to join their Healthy Future Movement.

New Special Enrollment Period for Marketplace Health Insurance

A new Special Enrollment Period on the Federal Health Insurance Marketplace has opened for consumers who have projected income of at least 100% of the federal poverty level but are at or below the 150% of the federal poverty level. This SEP allows qualifying people to enroll in plans in any month during the year without having to experience a “qualifying life event” like other SEPs. Enroll now and coverage should start April 1st.

100% of Federal Poverty Level is $12,880 for a household of one and $26,500 for a household of four. The 150% Poverty Level is $19,320 for a household of one and $39,750 for a household of four. Because this is North Carolina, which has not expanded Medicaid, people who are in the “Medicaid Gap” cannot qualify for this new SEP because their income is below 100% of FPL.

This SEP is available right now through the marketplace call center. By the end of March this SEP should be available automatically when you do your application on line through the Healthcare.gov website.

If you have questions, need more information or want help with enrollment, GetCoveredWNC, a service of Mountain Projects, offers local, free unbiased help. We can also help if you need a 1095-A form for your taxes. Call 828-452-1447 and ask to speak to a Certified Application Counselor.

Health Insurance event scheduled for Cruso

Need help health insurance through the ACA? Counselors will be on hand to answer your questions, including: 1. Can I be denied certain benefits because of preexisting conditions? 2. Will my current health issues affect insurance rates? 3. How much do insurance plans cost? 4. What do insurance plans cover?

Health Insurance event scheduled for Waynesville

Need help health insurance through the ACA? Counselors will be on hand to answer your questions, including: 1. Can I be denied certain benefits because of preexisting conditions? 2. Will my current health issues affect insurance rates? 3. How much do insurance plans cost? 4. What do insurance plans cover?

Tales from the Flood: Sherrie McArthur

A tiny lady with sturdy boots and a neat grey bun walks between high heaps of gnarled and tangled debris. Identifiable items poke out at odd angles: an axle with wheels here, an auger bit there. A hula hoop. Now and then the breeze carries a whiff of rot.

The Pigeon River slips by, just a stone’s toss away.

There’s a sense of sadness and confidence about her – a good-natured person who’s having a rough time. Bending down, she captures a windblown leaf, studies it, and remembers a nursery rhyme.

“A wise old owl lived in an oak,” she recites, pointing with her leaf. “The more he saw, the less he spoke. The less he spoke, the more he heard. Now, wasn’t he a wise old bird?”

Sherrie McArthur hasn’t heard too much lately, but she’s waiting.

Her 51-year-old family business in Cruso, Laurel Bank Campground, was utterly destroyed in August during floods wrought by the remnants of Tropical Storm Fred. Some guests died, others were traumatized, and her campground is unrecognizable.

Like many hardy residents of the valley, she’s buckled down and done her best. She hasn’t asked for much, and she’s accepted with grace the help that came her way. But now she’s grappling with the fact that she just doesn’t know what’s next.

The campground won’t reopen, at least in anything like its current form. “You can’t sow grass on rocks,” says McArthur, “the water washed away all the dirt.”

Not to mention that if the river came up that high once, it is likely to do it again. Massive erosion on the back side of the property during the flood exposed smooth river stone – a sign that the river once flowed there and might return – and heavy storms are becoming more commonplace.

Sherrie’s living space, a tidy A-frame, survived, but just barely. Volunteers are helping her make it livable again.

Other volunteers have bulldozed the broad, deep fields of rubbish into high mounds. But what does she do with it now? She doesn’t know who to ask, or really what the ask might be. Like many of her neighbors, she’s not used to being a squeaky wheel.

“People tell me to ‘be patient,’” she says. “They say the government moves slowly, but it moves. I guess in the meantime I’ll just keep living right here in the middle of it.”

Sherrie has always been an innkeeper of sorts. She’s spent her entire life, year after year, welcoming guests to a place that represents happiness for them.

When she and her brother Doug were little, before the business opened, the land was their family farm and they’d pitch a tent by the river to camp. It gave their father, Harold Crawford, an idea. Shovel in hand, day-by-day, he built the campground.

Soon she and her brother were campground kids, being teased at school for smelling like woodsmoke, and eventually she’d raise her own sons there.

“It’s always been the sweetest place,” she says. “It was kind of magical. When I opened each May, guests would be hugging each other like they were home. They’d be hugging my neck.”

Sherrie feels the weight of responsibility and loss. Many of the 95 campsites were held by seasonal campers with an average age of 70 or so. Most of them lost everything.

On the day of the flood, Sherrie had an inkling. No warnings were posted, but the rain pounded down and things didn’t feel right.

She talked to Cruso Fire Chief Tim Henson, who was hopeful that things wouldn’t worsen, but who urged caution.“I trusted my gut,” says Sherrie, who knew her guests would be hard to motivate on a mere hunch.

“I decided ‘I’m gonna tell a little white lie and say officials told us to move to higher ground,’” she says, and she began ushering campers to a pavilion, which was the agreed upon high water “safe spot.”

As it turned out, there was barely time. A violent landslide across the valley showed that things were getting worse fast. A pounding deluge high up the valley had come after two days of hard rain, and the river level rose abruptly.

“It was too much,” says Sherrie, “That was the angriest water I’ve ever seen in my life. Nobody had seen the river like that, even the old, old, old people.”

One camper tried to flee the campground in her car, despite warnings, and was swept away. Another died when he stepped out of his truck into waist-deep water and was caught in the current.

Most campers had gathered at the pavilion, but soon it was clear that it wasn’t high enough. Two at a time, Sherrie moved guests along a fenceline that climbed the hill behind, holding the hog wire as they pulled themselves to safety. Gathered at Sherrie’s son’s house up the hill, stunned and silent, they waited for the water to recede.

Almost three months later, Sherrie walks along at the upper end of the property.

A few hundred yards across the tranquil river, a man slowly creeps the shoreline with a backhoe. He lost a load of steel beams to the flood when his trailer washed away, and he’s searching the riverbed to find them – one piece at a time.

“It’s affected everybody in Cruso,” says Sherrie. “We all got walloped.”

“I thought I was prepared after Ivan,” she says, “but this was way more than a 100-year flood.” Hurricane Ivan, in 2004, caused serious, but not catastrophic damage to the campground, and she’d made some infrastructure changes since. Also, she was insured then, but insurance covered very little of the damage. This year she wasn’t insured, and said that she couldn’t have afforded it even if she’d found a willing underwriter.

As she strolls back home, she points out a destroyed building – the camp laundry – and the remains of an ice machine. Hospitality folks know the value of those machines, they are expensive and much-valued.

“I thought I’d bought the last ice machine I’d ever need,” Sherrie says, “and evidently it was. I just didn’t need it for as long as I expected to.”

Opening the door to her house, she sees that volunteer carpenters from Baptists on Mission have been by. They’re helping with the replacement of damaged cabinets and flooring.

“Look at this,” Sherrie says, stepping into her kitchen, “I got a new threshold!”

“They’ve taken care of me and so many in this little community,” she adds. “We’re all astonished, amazed and grateful and humbled. It’s wonderful work. Quality work. We can’t thank them enough.”

“Believe me, I say my thank you prayers,” she says, “and I need to say more.”

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Flood disaster recovery efforts continue to unfold, with recent news of 20 million dollars in state funds allocated to rebuild or elevate homes in the Pigeon River Valley. Rapid Rehousing efforts, managed by Baptists on Mission Disaster Relief Ministry and funded by contributors to Mountain Projects and United Way of Haywood County, will enable assistance to nearly 50 homeowners. A generous $500,000 donation by the Dogwood Health Trust will help up to 28 additional homeowners, for a total of more than 75 homeowners assisted by the initiative.

If you know someone who owns their home and needs Rapid Rehousing assistance, or if you’d like to volunteer to help with ongoing housing rehabilitations, please contact Bill Martin at 336-408-8393.

If you’d like to contribute to ongoing emergency needs and relief efforts, please call or email Mountain Projects Executive Director, Patsy Davis, at (828) 492-4124 or [email protected].

“We expect the recovery from this flood to take several years,” said Davis

 

Tales From the Flood: Brenda and Lee Stroupe

When Brenda Stroupe remembers her own experience of Haywood County’s catastrophic flood of August, 2021, she thinks about the Christian lessons of 2 Corinthians.

“The Bible says you know a man by his spirit, not by his flesh,” Stroupe says, as she recalls a community that rallied to support its flood victims. But from there she goes on to tell a compelling story of both spirit and flesh – a harrowing tale from Hidden Valley Circle, one of the county’s hardest-hit neighborhoods.

Brenda and her husband Robert “Red” Stroupe, then a Canton police officer, bought their handsome two-story log home in 2013 at the lower end of a pretty, leafy neighborhood near Bethel. Red passed away in 2016, and Brenda now lives there with their son, Lee, 23.

The house is in the bottoms, near the east fork of the Pigeon River, and it’s damp there, she says, and wet when it’s rainy, but with their house perched on a high foundation flooding was never a huge worry. As rain pelted down for the third straight day on August 17, however, she had a sense of foreboding. She’d had a nightmare two nights prior that involved flood water – and even included the word “tsunami” – and it kept coming to mind.

She and Lee were keeping an eye on the river, but hadn’t yet seen reason to worry when another son, Jerry, working in Cashiers, saw an alert that the Pigeon was rising, and called to urge them to higher ground.

Brenda balked, and Jerry called her hard-headed. “Y’all need to pack a bag!” he urged, and eventually Brenda agreed. But even as she and Lee were upstairs throwing a few clothes together, the river arrived. In a matter of seconds water swirled around both sides of the house.

Lee isn’t a swimmer, and Brenda was recovering from recent surgery, so they were at a standstill.

In the distance neighbors were hustling around, rescuing what they could, and one waded deep to pull the Stroupe’s camper to safety. Several offered to try to help them through the swirling brown current, but Brenda and Lee decided to risk it in their sturdy house. Remembering the thick flow, she says “I’ll never look at chocolate pudding the same way again.”

Lee ran to the basement to pull the main breaker and ran back up, and moments later they heard a strange sound. The eight-foot basement had abruptly filled with water, and floating appliances were banging against the ceiling.

“Son, let’s pray, or we’re doomed,” Brenda said. “We started praying and I said Lord if you don’t send an angel we’re gonna be gone.”

They got another phone connection to Jerry and his sister Joy, who were desperate for them to escape to higher ground. “Son, you don’t understand!” Brenda recalls saying, “there’s nowhere to go!” Everyone was terrified. They all had the sense they were saying goodbye. “I’ve never had fear grip me like that in my life,” Brenda said.

Outside the water roared.

Somehow, during the chaos, Brenda looked out the front window and noticed that a tall shepherd’s crook plant hanger in the front yard was nearly submerged, with only a few inches above water. But when she glanced again, more of the crook was visible. Soon there was yet more above water.

“It happened so quick, and then it started going back down, just as quick,” Brenda said.

Still, the neighborhood was torn apart. Two houses had been floated off their foundations, with one nowhere to be seen. Several more were flooded or destroyed. One man and his son were perched in a tree, waiting for help.

Eventually boats came and helped the Stroupes away.

Brenda spent the following days trying not to let her emotions overwhelm her. They stayed with Joy and her family in Canton. “It was still fresh and I’d wake up with nightmares,” she said. One night she startled everyone by shouting in her sleep “the water’s in here! The water’s in here!”

“It’s like a death,” Brenda said. “One day you handle it fine and the next day you can’t.”

The day after the flood was bright and clear, and the Stroupes visited their house.They’d lost one dog, but a second survived, and their cat showed up for breakfast, rattled but ready. Their neighbor’s bull, who Brenda sometimes hand fed – but who she’d doubted survived – showed up to greet them.

They started to sense they’d be ok.

Hidden Valley Circle was a sight to behold. Since the neighborhood was at the bottom end of the valley it was easy to reach, and an army of help had arrived.

“It was awesome,” said Brenda.

Many churches were represented, along with people from all around the community. “Do y’all need help?” was the question of the day. One man pumped the water out of the Stroupe’s basement, and a bucket line formed to muck out the mud. Another showed up with a tractor on a trailer, and when Brenda suggested they had so much help he might should seek out another neighborhood, he said “no ma’am, this is the place I’m supposed to be.”

Houses were surrounded by volunteers, carrying furniture, brandishing shovels and doing the painful early labor of recovery.

“God was using these people – their hands and feet – to do his work,” said Brenda. Before long, Bill Martin arrived. A representative of Baptists on Mission Disaster Relief Ministry, Bill has helped many Haywood County residents since the flood, and here he was at Brenda’s door.

Their home wasn’t as badly damaged as some others, but the damage was still severe, with systems ruined and water soaking into the floor on the main level.

“I don’t have the family or the means to do this on my own,” she told him. “I don’t have any insurance. I don’t have the money to pay for anything.”

Martin told her not to worry. “We’re here to help you get back in your home,” he said. “You are blessing us by letting us do it.”

Brenda’s impulse was to resist, which is a dynamic Martin has seen many times among independent-minded Haywood County community members. But he reassured her, and she eventually said yes. “Sometimes you have to learn to get rid of the pride and let God help,” she said. “Sometimes you do more harm than good by not accepting.”

Since then, Martin and his team of volunteers have been a steady presence for the Stroupes.

“It’s been amazing what they’ve done,” said Brenda, who said they’ve involved and taught Lee during their work, helping him grasp skills he would’ve learned from his father. “Personally, I long ago forgot how to shut up,” she says with a laugh, “but Bill’s always willing to listen. It’s like having a big brother or an uncle giving you advice.”

At the end of each work day, when family and volunteers gather for a prayer, Brenda gives thanks. “[God] laid it on other people’s hearts to help us,” Brenda said. “He’s used people that are willing to help.”

Rapid Re-Housing projects are supported by the expertise of Baptists on Mission disaster relief volunteers and with financial contributions made to Mountain Projects and the United Way of Haywood County.

The Stroupe’s home is one of almost 50 houses in process of Rapid Rehabilitation since the flood.

If you know someone who owns their home and needs Rapid Rehousing assistance, or if you’d like to volunteer to help with ongoing housing rehabilitations, please contact Bill Martin at 336-408-8393.

If you’d like to contribute to ongoing emergency needs and relief efforts, please call or email Mountain Projects Executive Director, Patsy Davis, at (828) 492-4124 or [email protected].

“We expect the recovery from this flood to take several years,” said Davis.

Tales From the Flood: From Wisconsin cold to North Carolina wet

A little over a year ago Victor de Mancia and his wife Crystal moved to Cruso from Wisconsin, mostly because they were charmed by the beauty of the mountains, but also because they felt oppressed by weather. They were sick of Wisconsin snow.

On August 17 they got a flood instead. Record-breaking levels of water roared down the valley at Cruso, brought on by heavy and prolonged rains high on Cold Mountain. The de Mancia’s home was nearly destroyed, and their property strewn with vehicles, outbuildings and all manner of assorted debris.

What came next, though, was what they consider a flood of blessings. In two short months they’ve experienced extraordinary kindness, shared some of their own, and reached an enormous personal milestone all at once.

“It was a total catastrophe,” Crystal says, “but it brought people to us that will be forever friends – people we never would’ve met otherwise. And right in the middle of it all Victor was called for his immigration exam.”

Victor came to the United States from El Salvador 20 years ago, and he and Crystal, a native Minnesotan, have been married for 12. Just as they tackled this flood recovery – with their heads swirling from all there was to do – they made an unexpected trip to Charlotte, where Victor took the test, passed, and became an American citizen.

The de Mancias fell in love with the mountains a couple of years ago on vacation and decided to work out the details for a move south. Eventually they found their house in Cruso: a sturdy mid century rancher with blonde brickwork, a nice yard, a pavilion for picnics, and the river nearby.

Crystal and Victor spent the first six months working on the property and home, making it their own. They looked forward to settling in and sharing it with friends. Crystal took a job at Haywood County Animal Services and Victor, a mechanic and handyman, took work in apartment complex maintenance.

They were both at work when the river came up. Unable to reach home, they spent the night on the floor of Victor’s work office in Canton, terrified for their house and pets: four birds, two dogs and a cat.

They had reason to be concerned: when the Pigeon left its banks along their stretch of the river, water crashed into the garage end of their house and swirled down an open stairwell into the basement. When the basement was full, the water burst through a wall at the far end of the house and continued on its way.

The de Mancias made their way home the next day to find their pets rattled but safe and their house a mess. The basement was an awful quagmire, and two walls – one on each end of the house – were badly damaged.

At first, their home was “red-tagged” by the county as a total loss, but they were able to find an engineer, Preston Gregg, of Waynesville, to complete an assessment and cost breakdown so that they could obtain a restoration permit and stay put.

“We’ve been blessed to remain home when so many neighbors were displaced,” Crystal said. “And we were also blessed to have so much help.”

A local couple, Pam and Craig Carter, came by way of New Covenant Church. They were on the scene almost immediately and organized volunteers to help both the de Mancias and their neighbors begin the cleanup.

After the downstairs had been laboriously mucked out, more volunteers from Baptists on Mission Disaster Ministry and Samaritan’s Purse helped remove the ruined furnace and ductwork, power washed the basement, and treated the space for mold. Even more help came from members of the de Mancia’s church, Barberville Baptist, and from old Minnesota friends Doug and Susan Mueller, now in Asheville, who contributed a heat pump and rallied more help from their neighbors.

Victor had the skills to pitch in with the neighbors’ houses as well as his. Among other things he’s a dowser, and he used his talent to help find the wellhead of the elderly couple next door, buried under a few feet of silt.

The couple’s challenges didn’t end within the walls of their home. Because their property is in a particular section of the Pigeon, with level woodland lying inside the curve of the river, it collected an extraordinary amount of flood-borne debris – along with a deceased victim.

Emergency personnel searched their land for days afterward, and when they were gone, the debris remained, including a Toyota pickup wrapped around a tree by the force of the water, outbuildings at odd angles, a recreational vehicle, and countless smaller pieces of furniture, appliances and rubbish. The couple was a bit mystified about what they were supposed to do with all the junk.

But Baptists on Mission came to the rescue once again, helping clear debris with bobcats so that county contractors could haul it away.

There’s still plenty of work to do, and while Haywood County Animal Services held Crystal’s job, Victor was let go when he couldn’t return immediately to work. He’ll soon be looking again.

Still, the de Mancia’s have been amazed by how their new community pulled together in the face of crisis.

“What was also wonderful is that nobody was asking if you were left or right, blue or red, or what color your skin was,” Crystal said. “Instead they asked us what our needs were and how they could help meet them. It was absolutely wonderful.”

There’s still a lot of work to accomplish to get Haywood residents back on their feet. More than 65 individuals continue to live in the shelter. 114 homes were completely destroyed and more than 700 homes were damaged by flooding.

Well before the floods, our community was facing an affordable housing shortage. Since August 17th, the issue has become mission critical. Through a partnership between Baptists on Mission, the United Way and Mountain Projects, funds have been raised to support more rehab for 52 homes.

Currently, there are seven rapid house rehabilitation jobs that are complete, 26 more that are in process and 16 initial participants that opted for other solutions. If you know a homeowner affected by flooding that needs home rehabilitation, or can refer skilled tradesmen to assist with this work, please contact Bill Martin of Baptist on Mission, 336-408-8393.

Tales From the Flood: “In A Lifetime I Couldn’t Return This Generosity”

This is the story of Toma and Clara Pop, who came together in Haywood County, nearly lost each other, and found extraordinary grace in their community afterwards.

When the Pop’s Mundy Field home was swept off its foundation in the catastrophic flood of August 17, Toma, 73, went with it. He swam free at the last second and lashed himself to a tree, where he was battered and scraped by floating debris until help came. Clara, 57, waited in a panic at a roadblock near Frank’s Grocery in Bethel, where she’d been stopped by emergency personnel.

Desperately trying phone calls, she finally reached her aunt, Ruby Lee Rhodes, whose house was up the hill behind theirs. Rhodes asked “Are you all ok? Where are you? Where’s Toma?”

“He’s at the house,” Clara said.

“Clara,” Rhodes said, “your house is gone! It’s all to pieces!”

Two months later it’s a beautiful October day on Cove Creek and the Pops are telling their story. They’re housed for the moment in a relative’s home not far from the Cataloochee Divide and a very long way from the nearest flood plain. They’ve lost nearly everything they owned.

Married for seven years, this is the second marriage for both of them. Clara’s family has been in Cruso for generations, while Toma, an immigrant who fled Ceaușescu’s Romania on foot 40 years ago, is a proud first generation citizen, a mechanic who built an American life from scratch. Their lives converged when she worked in Haywood County’s medical community and he was a patient.

Clara

When Clara left work at Haywood Surgical Associates on the day of this story, there was already talk about heavy rain and flood risk. A meeting had been cancelled. Still, she had no real reason to worry, and she checked in with Toma by phone and stopped for a loaf of bread. A half-hour later she crested the hill just past Bethel and pulled up short at the roadblock. She could go no further.

“Once you get to the packing house,” a fireman told her of a familiar Cruso landmark, “there’s nowhere else to go.”

She was stunned. The packing house was just before their house. Both are a pretty good way from the river, and the bottoms at Mundy Field, beneath Sugar Top mountain and Poison Cove Top mountain, are broader than upstream. Still, Clara’s family had always said that the river once ran on their side of the valley and that if enough rain came, it could do it again. She’d never been sure she believed it.

“I have to get to my house, my husband is in there. He isn’t well!” she said, and the fireman began working the radio in the chaos, learning what he could.

Frantically she called hospitals. No luck at Haywood. No luck at Mission. Then short messages began trickling in by radio. They thought he’d been rescued, one message said, another said he’s been rescued, but we don’t know where he is.

At last, hours after she arrived at the roadblock, a call got through from another neighbor, Denver Blalock. “We have Toma,” he said.

Toma

Toma Pop’s big dog Chase was strangely nervous that evening, barking to come inside. He wasn’t allowed in much, plus the weather was rainy and the house was clean. But Toma relented and brought him indoors, just before his brief check-in with Clara.

Not long after he hung up, there was a tremendous roar. The house shuddered and floor tiles popped into the air as the floor flexed.

Mystified, Toma opened the french doors that led to the couple’s mud room. The mud room was gone. And at that moment water rushed in, rising quickly to his chest. Afraid of being caught inside as water rose toward the ceiling and with thoughts he might crawl onto the roof, he plunged out the door into the torrent. He went under, saw light above, came up, and grabbed hold of something –  the gutter at the eave of the house.

The house floated free from its foundation and twisted in the current as he held tight.

“Usually we don’t have trees around our house,” said Toma, “and I looked up and now our house was in the trees.”

He grabbed hold of one of those trees, and with his other hand he took off his belt, wrapped it around a branch, and lashed his wrist tight. There he hung, water to his neck, one arm raised over his head.

He doesn’t know how long he waited – he says it felt like an hour. Eventually he heard neighbors shouting for him as they searched, he called back, and before long members of a Jackson County rescue squad team arrived in a boat. They threw him a life jacket and eventually wrestled him on board.

He was safe.

Neighbors later described a 10-foot wall of water, tumbling down the valley.

Afterwards

It’s been a difficult couple of months for the Pops. A scattering of things were recovered: Toma’s mud-caked guns, some keys, and a few other odds and ends. But most of their belongings are gone and Chase the dog was never seen again. The couple contracted Covid in the aftermath, and while Clara recovered quickly, it’s been harder for Toma, who’s having trouble getting around.

Then there’s the trauma. “Every night when I go to bed, I hear the sounds in my head and taste the water in my mouth,” said Toma.

And Clara lost her family home.

“I’ve lived there all my life. I was raised there,” she said. “My mama worked hard to pay for that house. All those memories were there – it’s hard. I go up the river and all the people I grew up with, their houses are gone.”

“Here I am 57 years old and I’m going to have to start all over again,” Clara said. “I know there’s people more affected than I am, but it’s still really hard. At least I still have my husband.”

The Silver Lining

It’s hard to make sense of such sudden, catastrophic events. The silver lining for the Pops has been the enormous generosity of friends, neighbors, and many total strangers.

“From the moment of the flood on, the generosity of the American took over,” says Toma, lowering his forehead to his hands. “Even now, people ask me if we’re comfortable enough. We have clothes! We have a roof over our heads! What more could we want?”

The community gave them clothing, food, a place to stay – whatever they needed, and a constant stream of support. Riverside Baptist. Co-workers at Haywood Surgical Associates. Many, many more.

“There’s no doubt in my mind that Haywood County people are the most wonderful people in the world,” said Clara. “I’ve never felt as loved. You think no one loves you, and then something like this happens.”

Toma nodded.

“What affected us most wasn’t the event,” he said. “A flood is a flood. These things happen. What affected us was what came after.”

Holding both hands in front of his chest and pinching his thumbs to his fingers, Toma shook his head and the tears came.

“Many people who had very little to give, gave us whatever they had,” he said. “In a lifetime I couldn’t return this generosity.”

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The Haywood County Rapid Re-Housing drive has raised money for more than 40 houses so far, with more in the pipeline. The original goal of 10 houses has been raised to 50 after a strong local response. The total number of houses in need isn’t yet known.

If you’d like to contribute to rapid-rehousing efforts in Haywood County, we urge you to make a donation to the United Way of Haywood County, 81 Elmwood Way, Suite 140 or PO Box 1139, Waynesville, NC 28786.

If you’d like to learn more about rapid rehousing, please call or email Mountain Projects Executive Director, Patsy Davis, at (828) 492-4124 or [email protected]. Mountain Projects is also accepting donations for a general flood recovery fund.

“We expect the recovery from this flood to take several years,” said Davis.